While a wedding gives you a chance to plan, write, and practice a
speech ahead of time there may be several times throughout the wedding
when you will want to give a wedding toast
with little preparation. If
you are a member of the wedding party and are attending rehearsal
dinners, showers, and bachelor parties you may find that you need to
give a speech. You will not always be told ahead of time whether
this will be the case for the events you will be attending.
Many times one person will start with a toast which will lead to
several toasts and speeches. Keep the above key points in mind for
speech structure and you will always be prepared.
If you have been told ahead of time that you’ll be
required to speak at the shower, bachelor party, Bridal shower, or
rehearsal you will want to prepare a little more. You do not want
to be giving the same speech to the Bridal couple several times and
this means that you will have to develop a few speeches that you can
use. Since all of your speeches are going to be different you
need to know exactly what you are going to say in a general sense so
that you can prepare your speech.
Here is a short list of the most important questions that you must consider before writing each of your wedding speeches:
• What kind of speech do I plan to make (humorous, poetic, sentimental)?
• How long will my speech be?
• What is my role in this wedding (father of the Bride, Best Man, Maid of Honor, Bridesmaid, or other)?
• What type of impression am I hoping to leave with the audience?
• Is this a first wedding or second?
• How well do I know the couple?
• How long have I known the couple?
• How do I want the couple to remember my speech?
The more that you know about the Bride and Groom,
the more personal information you’ll be able to include in your
speech. Finding the answers to the following questions about the
Bride and Groom will help you find your inspiration as well as give you
some ideas for what to include in your speech. Don't hold back
when you’re finding out information about the couple and make sure that
you write down everything that you learn for reference as you’re
writing your speech. You will have plenty of time to edit the
content later. Here are some questions that you should ask the couple
or people who are close to them, such as parents, siblings, and best
• How long have the Bride and Groom known each other?
• How and where did the couple meet?
• How did the Groom propose?
• What was the Bride’s reaction to the proposal?
• Does the couple have any children?
• What are the Bride and Groom's mutual interests?
• Ask the Bride what five words come to mind when she thinks of the Groom.
• Ask the Groom what five words come to mind when he thinks of the Bride.
• What is the funniest thing that happened to the
Groom while Bride was around or missing in action? And vice-versa?
• What do the Bride and Groom dream about for their future?
The above questions are more important that you
might think. When you find the answers to these questions you will find
themes and ideas that can help you write a memorable and treasured
speech that will be fondly remembered by the Bride and Groom for years